Wednesday, October 20, 2010

post punishment prayer

last night as we were getting the kids ready for bed, something happened and allen had to get on to molly for not following directions. she cried through him brushing her teeth, and then he handed her off to me and i took her into her room. she climbed in bed and i tucked her in, and she said
molly: "daddy punished me. thats why there weres (she mixes up was and were) tears coming down my face. and it made my heart sad."
me: "molly we love you so much and we only want whats best for you. thats why we punish you. its so you'll learn to follow directions."
molly: "do you love me?"
me: "yes i love you. do you think i love you?"
molly: "yes."
me: "do you think daddy loves you?"
molly: "no."
right about then allen came in
allen: "molly, you dont think i love you?"
molly: (shakes head, bottom lip sticking out)
she told him the same thing about her heart being sad, and he told her pretty much the same thing i told her about us punishing them because we love them, etc etc.
then colby came in and we decided we'd all say prayers together. colbys been saying his prayers at night and then whoever is putting him to bed also prays when he's done. molly hasnt wanted to pray out loud yet, not on a regular basis at least.
last night, though, allen said
allen: "molly, will you pray?"
molly: "yes."
colby: "i want to pray."
allen: "ok, colby you go after molly, and then mommy and daddy will pray."
molly: "dear Jesus, thank you for this day, and just...for this beautiful day. and please God, that daddy would respect me......."
well, i lost it. i got that giggles and they would not quit. she kept praying, but i didnt hear any more of it because i was doing a pathetic job of trying to get myself together for the rest of the prayer.
colby: "mommy, why are you crying?"
me: "i'm not crying."
colby: "are you laughing?"
allen: "keep going molly."
molly keeps praying, colbys not paying attention because hes distraced by me laughing, which i'm still doing, and allen is squeezing my finger to get me to stop, which is only making me laugh harder.
do you ever get the giggles, and for some reason you cant quit, and everything else thats happening around you only makes the situation funnier; like when you're in church?
so then colby prayed, and i pulled it together and prayed, and allen prayed, and everything ended nicely.

allen told me later that right after molly said "help daddy to respect me, " she said, "and help me to respect daddy." i of course missed that part.
shes got the right idea i suppose. as the prince says in cinderella (a show i'm all to familiar with at the moment), "everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect."


Monday, October 11, 2010


i've decided i need to take more road trips with the kids. thats where i get the good stuff.
we went to fredericksburg saturday, just the three of us, for a pioneer festival at a museum there in town.
first of all i thought fredericksburg was, like, an hour to an hour and fifteen minutes away. turns out its two hours. by the time i figured this out i was alread halfway there, so we just kept going.
whenweot there and i saw what it was were were going to, i worried it would be lame. there were hardly any people there and it didnt really look like there was much going on.
we had such a good time!! we were able to go inside some pioneerhomes and buildings from the 1800's and early 1900's. there was even a man in the school that had actually attned that school and was able to show us the desk he sat in and everything. pretty neat.
the kids got to churn butter, wash clothes on a washboard, watch wool being spun into yarn, make a rope, watch a blacksmith make nails (and they each got one), have their faces painted and do a craft project with seeds and beans. they had a blast!!
i told allen it was the most fun i'd had with them in a long time
i was surprised at how good it turned out to be, and we didnt have to wait in line to do anything because it wasnt crowded at all.
the kids were so well behaved and we even got a little christmas shopping done after we finished up at the exhibit.
and the drive is beautiful!!! that by itsself was worth it for me.

i accidentally left my camera at home, so i didnt get any pictures unfortunately.

as we were loading up that morning, colby and molly were messing with each other (they do that A LOT!), and i said
me: "if ya'll cant get along, we're not going today. i dont want to spend the day with you if you're going to fight and argue with each other."
colby: "we just have to get all our misbehaving out of our systems before we leave. then we'll be good."
and they were!! i dont think i had to get onto either one of them the rest of the day!

also when we were on our way there, colby blew his nose in the backseat and said
colby: "ah. my brain feels much better."
me: "your brain?"
colby: "yes. when i blow my nose, it makes some more room in my brain."
me: "oh, so if your brain gets too full, you just blow your nose."
colby: "right."